Anonymous
Hi anon, I think you referring to this quote I reblogged:
“The reality is that fat people are often supported in hating their bodies, in starving themselves, in engaging in unsafe exercise, and in seeking out weight loss by any means necessary. A thin person who does these things is considered mentally ill. A fat person who does these things is redeemed by them. This is why our culture has no concept of a fat person who also has an eating disorder. If you’re fat, it’s not an eating disorder — it’s a lifestyle change.”
— Lesley KinzelI have experienced this countless times and to be honest I have to admit that years ago I was one of these people as well who looked at an overweight person eating a burger at McDonalds and thought: “Wow this person should better not eat this burger!” When I was overweight I felt like I don’t have the right to eat. I felt like I have to earn my right to eat with a workout. I felt like it is my responsibility to get myself back into an “appealing” shape. Weight Watchers was one of the main triggers for my eating disorder, but even though people in my surrounding noticed that I was starving myself and consuming not more than 800 calories a day from silly diet shakes, they still gave me a feeling of “good on you, girl, no one wants to be fat, so you just do what it takes.”
How often get fat people told “You could be very pretty if you’d lose a couple of pounds!”? It’s reality that magazines show before and after weight loss pictures of celebrities saying “After losing 20kg NOW she looks amazing!”, not considering that these people might have done horrible things to their bodies. Some of them even promote things like mono diets or drinking diet shakes or whatever. Diet culture exists, fat shaming exists and the encouragement for fat people to lose weight, no matter how, exists too.
Diet culture is dangerous. Our mental and physical health is our most important, precious gift and should always be our Nr.1 priority. And if that means to eat a bag of nachos with cheese dip without feeling guilty while having a movie night with your friends, even though you might be overweight, then this is your god damn right.
The husband should be a leader. The wife should be a leader. The husband leads the wife in areas she is weak and needs guidance. The wife leads the husband where he is weak and needs guidance.
But enough of trying to fit genders into prescriptive boxes. If the dynamics of a relationship aren’t based on the gifts of the individuals involved, then it isn’t grace-driven and honoring each spouse as created, but legalistic and denying God’s good creation.
(via yesdarlingido)
